Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes!!
I'm so sick and tired of justifying my heart, my losses, my grief, my struggles, my everything, with those that still live in the notion that grief is a something that just evaporates over time.
It doesn't -- it isn't supposed to! It is the love left behind that morphs into grief - and grief isn't always sad. Some times grief is joy in the moment, with a slight discoloring because of the missing puzzle piece that will always be missing. It just is. And it just will always be. And it is okay for it to be that way. To always have a missing piece -- who in the world is ever entirely whole anyway? Was I whole before the dominoes fell? Maybe I thought I was, but no. I couldn't have been. I hadn't held my baby girl and kissed her little nose yet. I hadn't journeyed across an ocean to volcanic lands. I hadn't pushed myself through school for a second time to walk the stage in front of hundreds of people to prove that I could. Every little step, or big one, shapes a person - no one is ever complete.